By Benjamin Poon · Updated 2026-10-23 · 4 min readPlan a short visit at a quiet time, check access for walking and steps beforehand, bring water and somewhere to sit, and let your parents lead the conversation. Benjamin Poon can arrange viewings at Nirvana Memorial Garden and discuss the two temples he works with, in Chinese or English, at your parents' pace.
Before the visit
- Ask your parents gently whether they want to come; some prefer to decide from photos first.
- Choose a weekday morning if you can.
- Ask about lifts, steps and seating in advance.
- Write down the questions your parents care about.
During the visit
- Keep it short; you can always come back.
- Let your parents speak first and set the pace.
- Do not decide on the day unless they want to.
Talking about it at home
It is normal for this to take more than one conversation. Our guide on questions before choosing a niche can help structure it.
Common questions
Should my parents choose their own niche?
If they want to, yes. Many older people find it a relief to make the choice themselves.
Can Benjamin speak to my parents in Chinese?
Yes. He speaks Chinese and English.
